We’re Matt, Steph and Primrose – AKA Mr and Mrs Sidestepping-Normal (and Baby Sidestepping-Normal!)
This blog was originally started to document our simple life in sunny Crete, but has recently changed since our arrival back in the UK and the tragic loss of our newborn son, Arthur.
The Greek bit:
It all started in 2018 when we were in our late 20’s and early 30’s and decided to quit our predictable, boring lives in the UK to live an alternative life with more focus on having time to enjoy the simple things.
We’d previously led very normal lives, had very normal jobs and lived in a very normal town in the south of England.
We felt extremely fortunate to have the lives that we had, but could also see our futures mapped out before us with no real option of living differently.
We could have easily gone down the route that was expected of us (and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that) but we started to ask ourselves if there was more to life than living for the weekend and paying off the mortgage. Why are we expected to trade 30 years of our lives for a roof over our heads?
We started to wonder what would happen if we minimised our outgoings and had no mortgage and therefore didn’t have to work so much. The time that we had previously spent working would be free to spend doing the things that we wanted to do.
Having made the move to the Greek island of Crete, we began to create our vision. We were mortgage free and had two properties, one of them being a little derelict ruin which we were renovating as a holiday rental. We led a frugal life but had our freedom and time, which to us are the most important things.
After two and a half years of Greek adventures, we found out the wonderful news that we were expecting a baby. With the prospect of our family growing, we decided to move back to the UK to recreate our Greek lifestyle near our friends and family.
The English bit:
Shortly after arriving back in the UK, our baby boy was born. Very tragically, due to a catalouge of errors, he was starved of oxygen and we had to say goodbye when he was five days old. The loss of Arthur has set us on a new path and we’re on a quest to do as much good as possible with our lives. Every penny and ounze of energy has been ploughed into a four acre site that we’ve named Arthur’s Patch.
Recently we’ve had our second baby, Primrose, who is helping us to heal. We’re learning to live with our loss and creating Arthur’s Patch is our medicine. Arthur’s Patch is about creating a place where nature and people can thrive and heal together. We’re at the beginning of a new chapter, so stick around to see us plant a mini woodland, establish a large pond, build a vegetable garden and orchard, create a children’s play area , plus many more projects along the way.
We can’t wait to share what we are doing,
Matt, Steph and Primrose