Losing a baby: A parent’s love

Losing a baby: A parent’s love

This post is not one I want to write, but it is important that I do.

I am Stephanie’s mother and she has allowed me to contact you all, because at the moment she is too sad to do anything. Of course her lovely husband is behind me in every way.

As you know, Stephanie and Matt were expecting their first baby in early June. Stephanie went into labour at home at 37and a half weeks pregnant, which is full term, so we weren’t worried. However, it was a breech birth of which we were totally unaware, and so quick that he was delivered at home before we could get to the hospital. The ambulances got to us in 6 minutes and many paramedics tried their hardest with us, but his head could not be delivered and by the time he was finally out into this world at the hospital, he had suffered massive lack of oxygen to the brain.

He was taken to the Trevor Mann Baby Unit at the Royal Sussex County Hospital in Brighton [a place full of fantastic doctors and nurses who work tirelessly to help babies], where they tried for 4 days to help little Arthur. We rallied family and friends – basically every single person we knew – frantically asking them to pray, whether they believed or not! They were all amazing, but sadly our prayers could not be answered. Arthur had no brain function and would not live.

Our close family were all allowed to meet him in a room at the hospital. We kissed him and stroked him; Stephanie’s dad held his little hand whilst I read him ‘Guess How Much I Love You’, with Stephanie cradling him in her arms. Unbelievably, it was a magical time and we were so happy! How can you be so happy when you are so sad? But we were. Stephanie and Matt looked so proud; she looked serene.

They then had time to be with their baby boy, to bathe him, Matt sung to him [Arthur must have had a shock with that one!] When they finally took the tubes out, Arthur didn’t take one breath, but his heart kept on beating for 1 hour 47 mins! What a strong little boy he was.

We are now having to deal with such grief, I never knew you could feel such pain, all in different ways. My mother, who is 84, is having to watch me suffer, as I helplessly watch my daughter suffer the most unbearable loss of a baby. My middle daughter Olivia had our first grandchild 14 weeks ago; she was so excited for her little boy Rowan to meet his cousin. Melissa, my youngest daughter, lives at home and helped deliver Arthur, which was very traumatic. Nigel has to watch his wife and daughters sob and cry and he can’t do a thing about it.

Finally, Stephanie and Matt have to deal with the ultimate pain of losing a baby that was so perfect. His little nose, his dark, dark hair and olive skin, he was a mini-Matt! Inside I think he had Stephanie’s beautiful soul, the combination together would have been spectacular. What a kind, loving and adventurous man he would have been.

Baby Arthur

But there is another side to this tragedy, such amazing things have been happening! Silly rifts between friends and family have been healed, people have rung and told us they love us, they have dropped bags of food and home-cooked meals at our door.

The family have hugged and cried and told each other so many things that we couldn’t say before, suddenly it’s like a door has opened and we can see the real meaning of things. We are like a different family that can never go back. The flowers look different, more vibrant. The birds are so much fun to watch when you really study them. At 5am I sit in the summerhouse at the end of the garden and just be still, taking in every beautiful thing. I couldn’t do this before.

I know how many people in ‘internet land’ love Stephanie and Matt and will be so upset by this news. They really are a special couple and although I am biased with my daughter, Matt is such a wonderful person too, he is just as Stephanie describes him, her rock, and they know they will be even stronger than ever now.

Stephanie and Matt always wanted land to create a haven for animals and nature, but they couldn’t afford it here in the south of England. Their love of Greece helped them to create it for a while, however, they now know they cannot live without their family and friends. The loss of baby Arthur has now reinforced how desperately they need some land to help them heal.

The search for land continues

We as a family, with Stephanie and Matt as the driving force, want to start up a small animal sanctuary, a place to grow things, a place for anyone who needs a bit of love to come to, and help build something wonderful.

It could make a difference to so many people and animals, and this will be Arthur’s legacy. Then his life will not have been in vain. We will call it ‘Arthurs Patch’, Nigel thought of this name and we think it is perfect. I believe when there is so much passion for something good, it WILL happen.

If anyone out there knows of any land, not too far from our home near Brighton, with or without property, that we can buy to make this dream come true, please let us know.

I hope this hasn’t gone on too long! But I had to let you know it all!

Much love,

Stephanie’s Mum and Dad (Karen and Nigel) xxx

141 thoughts on “Losing a baby: A parent’s love

  1. Bless you all, and bless little Arthur. Thank goodness you came home to the UK. Good luck with your hunt for Arthur’s Patch. Sending love and healing thoughts to you all x

    1. Hello Alison
      Thanks for your message, it is lovely to know people care. I am pleased that they are back home with us too.
      Love Karen

  2. I feel so sorry, I can’t find words. I will pray for the baby and for them. It is indeed true that such events help us to be aware of what we had already around and were not aware of. May their dreams come true. With love, Francesco

    1. Hello Francesco Thanks for your message. Yes, its a shame that you have to sometimes go through the pain of grief or loss, to feel this way, but then it wouldn’t happen without it either. It’s all or nothing isn’t it. Your kind words make a real difference. Love Karen x

  3. Oh gosh. I am so sorry to hear this as Stephanie’s beautiful posts, which always transported me to our lovely house in Crete, make it feel as if it has happened to a friend. Sending much love and every best wish to them, and to you. So very sorry.

    1. Hello Claire Thank you so much for you message, it really makes a difference to know how much people care. Crete is such a wonderful place isn’t it, I was with Stephanie for 3 months last year, and loved every minute of it. Love Karen 🌹

    1. Hello Clare Thanks for your lovely message, it’s good to know people care. Love Karen 🌹♥️

  4. I wept readiing this news. Arthur’s Patch seems like a beautiful idea and I hope it comes to fruition for you all. Sending love x

    1. Hello Jane Thank you for your message, it’s lovely to know people care.
      I know Stephanie will let you know more about Arthur’s Patch soon. Love Karen 🌹♥️

  5. I am so, so sorry for your loss. So glad you had that precious time with baby Arthur. Much love xxx

    1. Hello Samantha Thank you for your message, yes, I feel lucky that we could at least be with him and kiss him, even if it was for a short time. It’s nice to know people care. Love Karen 🌹♥️

  6. Dear Karen & Nigel
    I am so very sorry to read about the loss of beautiful baby Arthur. Unfortunately, I can relate somewhat as I went through the same trauma in 2013. Please send our love and thoughts to Steph and Matt.
    Emma & Andrew xxx
    Owners of No9 Panorama Seafront Homes II

    1. Hello Emma Thank you for your message, you were so kind to us last year. I was even thinking about the villa at 5am this morning and remembering the gorgeous pool; saving a praying Mantis and watching it recover on a pretty plant near the pool and sipping an ouzo at the outside table. Lovely memories. I’m so sorry to hear that you too suffered terrible loss in 2013, how awful, people never know these things because you don’t just mention it, but underneath there is such sadness. Thank you for your kind thoughts, they are very much appreciated, Love Karen 🌹♥️

  7. dear Matt and Stephanie,
    I am so sorry to hear of your tragic loss…Two of my family have been through the loss of miscarriage, and I know how much heartache you will both be going through. My heart goes out to you both, Take care.

    1. Hello Joan Thank you for your message. I’m sorry to hear about your family members losses. It is an awful time for people, isn’t it. It’s good to have so many sending lovely thoughts and kind words to us though. Love Karen 🌹♥️

  8. Dear Steph and Matt and Family,

    I am so so sorry for your loss, my love and prayers are with you all at this heartbreaking time.
    When you returned from Greece I did wonder why, but now I am glad you did so you can have the love and support of your family and friends.

    Your friend (even though weve never met)
    Chris Richmond

    1. Hello Chris Thank you for your message, yes, I am pleased they are home with us. At least we can all support eachother. It really helps to know so many people are thinking of us, particularly Stephanie and Matt. I know Stephanie will be back sometime with a new update on Arthur’s Patch! Love Karen 🌹♥️

  9. I have followed Matt & Stephs journey since watching them on TV. Having read this beautifully written piece by Stephs mum there are really no words. I am so so sorry for the loss of Arthur. My thoughts are with you all x

    1. Hello Carly Thank you for your message, It was so lovely watching them on the TV programme, We all as a family couldn’t wait for the next episode! Who would have known what was around the corner for them then. It helps to know that people care about Stephanie and Matt though, love Karen xxx

  10. Such incredibly sad news, I can’t comprehend the loss of a baby, the sadness must be overwhelming. I don’t know Steph and Matt but from the blog I can tell that they’re a very capable, positive couple and I’m sure they’ll make a huge success of Arthur’s Patch. I hope that creating it will help them with the healing process and come to terms with their loss.

    1. Hello Steve Thank you for your message, it is such an awful time for them, as you say, sometimes the sadness is so overwhelming, that you just don’t know what to do with yourself. We will take each day and know that Arthurs Patch will be wonderful. I’m sure Stephanie will post with an update on the land, once things aren’t so raw and sad. Best wishes Karen xxx

  11. Such beautiful words Karen. I know I said this to you in person last week, but you are an incredible family unit and I know you will all get through this and bring some good in the process.
    I love you all and if you need anything at all, please just say the word 🙂 xxx

    1. Hi Lovely Clare! Thank you for your message. I know Stephanie values your friendship more than words can say. See you soon, Love Karen xxx

  12. so so so sorry to hear that news. It made me literally cry while sitting at my laptop working from home. It makes you realise how work just pales into nothing when considering what some people are going thru.

    Thinking of you all and your family and sending the best of wishes. Stephanie and Matt’s stories of Greece have brightened up my days for months now and then their journey back to Sussex. I don’t know them but I feel I know them if you know what I mean. Please pass on my dearest wishes and hope that you all safe. You have each other and that must be a big strength.

    With lots of love
    Jennie xxxxx

    1. Hello Jennie. Thank you for your lovely message. I know that you really care, just by your words. It is so awful isn’t it, until something like this happens, you just can’t believe how you can feel. Don’t we all just go about our lives daily and never think anything different could happen. But then I suppose thats how it should be, else we would all be terrified of whats around the corner. Im rambling again! I know that your words are a comfort to Stephanie and Matt, so thank you.
      Im sure Stephanie will update you with the land for Arthurs Patch when things aren’t so sad. Love Karen xxx

  13. Dear family, you have my deepest sympathy for the loss of your baby.
    I have been following you with the difficult situations you had to face of leaving Greece , the country I also love very much, having a longstanding friendship with a family I Zakynthos.
    I wish you and the family all the best n and the strength to go on . and I hope that you will one day return to Greece and have the life you always wanted .
    Kind Regards Janis Versluis ( the Netherlands )

    1. Hello Janis Thank you for your message. I know Stephanie and Matt really appreciate having such lovely people following them. They are going to buy land in England now, and have many plans for a small animal sanctuary, calling it Arthurs Patch. Hopefully you can still follow along with them, on their journey ahead. Best wishes, love Karen xxx

  14. This was very sad to read. I’m very sorry to hear about Arthur’s passing. Arthur’s Patch will be a perfect place when land is found. Sending much love to the whole family x

    1. Hello Elsa. Thank you for your kind message. It is an awful time at the moment, but we take each day as it comes and know that the pain will ease a little bit over time. I know Stephanie will post everyone an update on Arthurs Patch when things are not so sad. You can follow them on their journey and I know wonderful things are going to happen there. Arthur really has changed our lives Love Karen xxx

  15. So heartbreakingly sad and thank you so much for the strength you have shown and shared to us. You will get your piece of land one day and hope it comes soon and also hope that you will be blessed with another baby who will grow up loving ‘Arthur’s Patch’.

    From desperate sadness comes joy eventually so keep strong and bless you all. X

    1. Hello Valerie Thank you so much for your lovely message. It really helps Stephanie and Matt and us all, to know that people care so much. I know Stephanie will be posting an update on Arthurs Patch, when things aren’t so sad for them. Its just a little glimmer of light in such a dark time, and I know wonderful things are going to happen, all in little Arthurs name. Love Karen xxx

  16. So so sorry for the great loss of baby Arthur. I am so chocked up, in tears, reading the details of the loss of such a wanted baby. Very beautifully written by Karen. Feeling the sadness of the loss by the whole family. My heart goes out to Stephanie and Matt. I always looked forward to reading Stephanie’s blog, loved the way they embraced their life on a Greek Island. It was very interesting for me as I also live on a Mediterranean island of Malta, so there are lots of common things and similar cultures!
    Sending love and prayers to this amazing family 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜 🇲🇹

    1. Hello Carmen. Thanks for your lovely message. Its so nice to know people really care, and it does make a difference. Their time in Crete was magical, and I know they loved every minute. Nigel and I went to Malta shortly after we met, which was 35 years ago! It was a fantastic time, and we have such wonderful memories of a gorgeous Island. One day we would like to return. Yes, Aurthurs Patch is definitely on the way, It will be a new chapter for them in England and I know Stephanie will post an update on whats happening, when things aren’t so sad for them. Love from Karen xxx

  17. I think getting the land would be a fantastic memory. I’m not sure how you are planning on doing the sanctuary but I do know that in Scotland there is a place called highlandtitles.com you may want to check it out for ideas if you haven’t heard about it. It would help doing the same sort of thing to buy and keep up the land. Just an idea I thought about.

    I have followed the family in Greece. The stories they told kept me going during a bad time. Now they are having a bad time and I will continue to pray for them and their future adventures with their land and memories of ‘Arthurs Patch’,
    Please keep us all updated on how we can help.
    Very sorry for your loss. 😔

    1. Hello Lisa Thank you for your message. Sorry it has taken so long to reply. We really do appreciate your kind words. I know when Stephanie feels up to posting again, she will tell you all about the land that we are going to buy. I think one day, there will be a lot of wonderful things happening at Arthur’s Patch. Love Karen x

  18. Your post has pulled on my heart strings. I know and understand the pain and suffering Stephanie, Matt yourself, your husband Nigel and all the family will be going through. We lost our first baby, Simon Joseph, at full term 31 years ago. Not a day goes by when we don;t think of him. But life does go on. Stephanie & Matt’s plan is wonderful and I pray that they will soon find the perfect ‘Arthur’s Patch’, I think Arthur will be guiding them to the right site.
    With all my love and healing for you all. xxx

    1. Hello Josephine Thank you for your message. Sorry it has taken so long to reply. I am so sorry to hear that you too went through losing a baby. It must have been terrible, as you say, although it was 31 years ago, it never leaves you. I know Stephanie and Matt get a lot of strength though reading comments on their channel and knowing that people truly care about them. I know Stephanie will post sometime soon about the land that will be called Arthur’s Patch. Love Karen x

  19. So very sad to hear of your loss of your baby boy! We hope you find strength to still have and live and fulfill your dreams!! We will think of you as we are setting up our new home in Crete, where you once wrote from with such love and humour about living your dream!! Stay strong, and love each other always!!

    1. Hello Toni. Thank you for your message. Sorry it has taken so long to reply. I am glad that you are making your home in Crete, it is such a wonderful Island and the Cretans are such lovely people. I know Stephanie and Matt really appreciate such kind comments on their channel. Stephanie will post sometime soon to keep everyone up to date with the land that is being purchased for Arthur’s Patch. Love Karen x

  20. Dear Stephanie and Matt, Karen and all the family, so incredibly sorry to hear this heartbreaking news, I can only imagine the pain you are all feeling.

    Thank you for sharing this with all of us, it must be the hardest thing to do.

    Sending Stephanie and Matt, Karen and Nigel and all the family all my thoughts of love and support that it’s possible to send.
    Tony

    1. Hello Anthony. Thank you for your message. Sorry it has taken so long to reply. I know that Stephanie and Matt really appreciate your kind words, it really does help them to know that people truly care about them. Stephanie will be posting soon about the update on purchasing land for Arthur’s Patch. Love Karen x

    1. Hello Clare and Jonathan. Thank you for your message. Sorry for not replying sooner. I know that Stephanie and Matt really appreciate your kind thoughts. Love Karen x

  21. I am so sorry for your loss. Such dreadful news, I can not begin to imagine the pain and sadness you must all be feeling. Best of luck with the search for Arthur’s patch. x

    1. Hello Samantha. Thank you for your message. Sorry for not replying sooner but as you can imagine its been a roller coaster ride of emotions daily. Stephanie and Matt really do appreciate your kind thoughts, and I know that Stephanie will be posting sometime soon with an update on the land we are purchasing for Arthur’s Patch. Love Karen x

  22. My dear Karen that is so very sad to read but beautifully written, Fred and I with our family in Cornwall were heartbroken for Matt and Steph who you know we love dearly.We haven’t spoken to them yet as we know how difficult it is for them.We have told both Barbara and Carol that if Matt and Steph need bolt hole we would welcome them with arms open for a big hug and a shoulder to cry on if needed, as you know Fred and I know what it is like to suffer such a loss. Sending love to you and Nigel and all your family x x x x

    1. Hello Jan and Fred. Thank you for your message. Sorry I have not replied sooner, but as you can imagine it has been a very difficult few weeks. I know that the both of you must know exactly how awful it has all been, you have suffered so terribly too. I would not wish this sort of pain on anyone. It was also such a shame that Stephanie and Matt could not come and visit you last week, what an unbelievable thing to have happened! You could not make this sort of thing up, could you! I really hope that we can meet up sometime in the future for tea and cakes. We had such a nice time in Barbara and Des’s garden all those years ago. Love to you both, Karen x

  23. So sad to hear this. Our youngest daughter had her baby two and a half years ago, her first. She was born at 26 weeks weighing in at 675gms. She has survived after spending over a 100 days in hospital, it was touch and go wether she survived. She is now coming up to two and a half, walking and talking. Our loss is that we have not seen her now for two years due to Covid, as we live on Crete. Give Stephanie and Matt our love in this difficult time

    1. Hello Kim and Penny. Thank you for your message. Sorry that I have not replied sooner. Im so glad that your little grandaughter is ok, it must have been such an awful, worrying time for you all. I bet you can’t wait to see her again, and hopefully it won’t be too long now. I know Stephanie and Matt really appreciate such kind comments. Love Karen x

  24. Dear Stephanie and Matt, saying I’m so sorry is not enough. But I am. I will pray for you to heal and keep moving forward. May seem impossible but one step at a time. God Bless you all.

    1. Hello Cheryl. Thank you for your message and sorry that I have not replied sooner. I know that Stephanie and Matt look at and appreciate all of their comments. It really does make a difference. Love Karen x

  25. I’m not sure words have been invented to cover the sadness you must all be going through. But, one thing is for sure, Stephanie and Matt have the love of their whole family, they have strength, courage, and they have the knowledge that their dreams will come true for them one day. They also have now the memory and love of Arthur and they will always have that no matter what.
    Thank you so much for sharing, and wishing you all the luck in the world with finding some land and making Arthur’s Patch a reality. You should be so proud, Karen and Nigel, you have a wonderful loving family.

    1. Hello Carol Thank you for your message, and I am sorry it has taken so long to reply. As you can imagine, it has been awful at times. Yes, Arthur has made our whole lives have new meaning and I know Stephanie is going to post sometime soon with an update on the land that we are purchasing for Arthur’s Patch. I think lots of wonderful things are going to happen at the land, and I hope the blog followers will enjoy following them on their new journey.

  26. Such sad news. How things can change in the blink of an eye. Please pass on our commiserations and best wishes for the future. They are a lovely young couple, always positive and will find a way through this in time.
    Love, Simon and Janet, Logan and Wilson

    1. Hello Simon and family. Thank you for your message and sorry it has taken so long to reply. Yes, they are such a lovely couple and I know that this has really been a tough time for them, and for us all. We try to stay strong, and I know that Stephanie will post an update sometime on the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch. Love Karen x

  27. Mr. & Mrs,
    This is so not what I was expecting to read.
    They are surrounded by lots of people who love and will be there for them, this is so important.
    The fact that they have a project, a goal for an animal sanctuary is something that will help to focus on the positive. I wish you all courage, one day at a time.
    Céline

    1. Hello Celine. Thank you for your message and sorry it has taken so long to reply. Stephanie and Matt do read and appreciate all of the messages that are sent to them, and it really does make a difference. Stephanie is going to post sometime soon an update on the land that is being purchased for Arthur’s Patch. Love Karen x

  28. Sad beyond words, I am so so sorry to read what has happened and wish Stephanie, Matt and all of you love and best wishes in finding the strength to move forwards.

    1. Hello Roger. Thank you for your message and Im sorry that it has taken so long to reply. I know that Stephanie and Matt really do appreciate all of your kind words. Love Karen x

  29. There are no words. I’m so sorry. What an awful thing to happen. You are very brave writing this Karen.

    What a beautiful baby boy Arthur was.

    Much love to everyone

    1. Hello Sue. Thank you for your message and sorry it has taken so long to reply. Yes, Arthur was very special and he has given us a new purpose in life. I know that Stephanie and Matt really do appreciate all of your kind words. Love Karen x

  30. I am so sorry to hear of our loss, I know these are just words that cannot take away your pain and grief, but I hope hat somehow you can find comfort in reading these words, perhaps sometime in the future. You are lucky that you have caring family and friends take solace in this, they will help you both. I wish you luck in finding Arthurs patch, I am in Greece at the moment I will go to church tomorrow and light a candle for Arthur.

    1. Hello Denise. Thank you for your message and sorry for taking so long to reply. Stephanie and Matt read all of your comments and really do appreciate them. It makes such a difference to know that so many people care. Stephanie will be posting an update sometime on the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch.
      Love Karen x

  31. My heart aches for you all …. How incredibly sad and I don’t really know what to say……we adore Matt and Steph – the most beautiful couple with the biggest, kindest hearts and generosity of spirit. We send all our love to all of you…..when you find that special plot of land I just know that ‘Arthur’s Patch’ will be a wonderful place to sit and think and ponder, knowing that Arthur will be watching over you and wrapping his arms around you. We love you Matt and Steph…….Pip, Henry and Willow xxxxxx

    1. Hello Pip and family. Thank you for your message and I’m sorry that it has taken so long to reply to you. Your words are so kind, and I know that Stephanie and Matt have read all of their messages and it really does help them to know that people truly care. Stephanie will sometime soon be posting an update on the land that will be purchased for Arthur’s Patch. I think wonderful things are going to happen, and I know that Arthur will be, as you say ‘wrapping his arms’ around them whilst they start on their new journey. Much love, Karen x

  32. So very sad, but thank you for letting us all know. I have loved every instalment of sidestepping normal, how I would have loved to visit. I secretly hoped that one day they would go back along with baby but I can see why they never will. Much love to Stephanie and Matt and the whole family. I hope the dreams will come true and God bless little Arthur. X

    1. Hello Patricia. Thank you for your message and I’m sorry that it has taken so long to reply to you. Stephanie and Matt really appreciate all of your comments and I know it makes a difference that people care about them. Stephanie will be posting an update sometime regarding the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch, I am sure that something special will happen, all in Arthur’s name. Love Karen x

  33. So sorry to hear of you’re loss of baby Arthur
    Think you’re very brave to write the blog
    Send my condolences to Stephanie and Matt

    1. Hello Valerie. Thank you for your message and sorry for not replying sooner. Stephanie and Matt have really appreciated such lovely, kind messages from so many people who follow the blog. Stephanie will be posting sometime an update on the land we want to purchase for Arthur’s Patch. I have enjoyed writing to so many people who I have never met, but feel that I know them, because of their connection to Stephanie and her blog. Love Karen x

    1. Hello Cecile. Thank you for your message, sorry I have not replied sooner. Stephanie and Matt really do read and appreciate all of their messages. Love Karen x

  34. This is such tragic news. I hope for family healing and ease of the sharpness of grief in the years to come. I have followed (yet never met) Stephanie and Matt with their intrepid adventure to be on Crete and live close to the land of my mother. They have been an inspiration for our family to expand our perspective and lifestyle. Our love goes out to you all in this difficult time.

    1. Hello Evan. Thank you for your message and sorry for not replying sooner. Stephanie and Matt read all of their messages and really do appreciate them. Its so nice to know that people truly care. Crete is a wonderful Island and as a family, we all have loved our time visiting Stephanie and Matt at their villa and cottage. Hopefully, their new dream at Arthur’s Patch will start soon. Stephanie will be posting sometime with an update on the land we are purchasing. Love Karen x

  35. I am so very sad to hear this tragic news . You have described a beautiful baby who will never be forgotten. What a wonderful legacy Arthur’s Patch will be .

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss . Thank goodness they are at home with family and that there is so much love and support to help you all through this .

    1. Hello Chrissie. Thank you for your message and sorry for not replying sooner. It is so lovely to know that so many people care about Stephanie and Matt, and I know that they appreciate such wonderfully supportive messages. We are taking each day as it comes, and find comfort in knowing that little Arthur has made such a difference to all of our family’s lives. Stephanie will be posting sometime an update on the land we are purchasing for Arthur’s Patch. Love Karen x

  36. So sorry to hear of the passing of baby Arthur. My thoughts, prayers and love is with you all . I have followed the blog posts since the start and hope that you find the perfect spot to set up your animal sanctuary. Blessings, Eileen

    1. Hello Eileen. Thank you for your message and sorry for not replying sooner. Stephanie and Matt really appreciate your kind words and it does help them tremendously. I know sometime Stephanie will be posting an update on the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch. Love Karen x

  37. My heart goes out to you all.
    May you find Arthur’s Patch soon and put down your roots there.
    Wishing you strength and healing.
    With love

    1. Hello Fran. Thank you for your message and sorry for not replying sooner. Stephanie and Matt really do appreciate such lovely messages from kind people. It makes such a difference. Stephanie with be posting and update sometime regarding the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch. Love Karen x

  38. My heart goes out to you all and how lucky Matt and Stephanie are to have such wonderful parents to shower them both with such love and support. Good luck with finding land for Arthur’s Patch it will be a very special place. Sending you all positive vibes from their beloved Greece xx

    1. Hello Serena. Thank you for your message and sorry for not replying sooner. Stephanie and Matt really appreciate all of the messages sent to them at this awful time, and it does help to know that so many people truly care about them. Stephanie will be posting sometime with regards to the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch. I know it is going to be a wonderful new chapter in their lives. Love Karen x

  39. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of baby Arthur. I pray that you will be comforted at this time.

    1. Hello Andrea. Thank you for your message and sorry for not replying sooner. I know that Stephanie and Matt read all of their messages and get such comfort from knowing so many people care about them. Love Karen x

  40. Hi Stephanie,
    So sad to read your Mother’s message about the loss of your darling baby Arthur. I’m sure it must be comforting for you and Matt to be surrounded by such a loving and supportive family.
    It is amazing what you have achieved in the years since we sat next to each other in our Greek lessons in Crawley and I wish you all the best in the future. Joy XX

    1. Hello Joy. Thank you for your message and sorry for not replying to you sooner. I remember Stephanie talking to me about you and your lessons together. It seems a lifetime ago that she was learning so hard to speak Greek. I know that Stephanie and Matt really appreciate all your kind words and it helps them to know that people care. Love Karen x

  41. I am so very very sorry to hear of the loss of this baby. Your post made me cry. Be strong! Much love from my home near Athens where I’ve followed the posts for some years now.

    1. Hello Lynn. Thank you for your message and sorry that it has taken so long to reply. Stephanie and Matt really appreciate hearing from people and it helps them to know that others really care about them. Love Karen x

    1. Hello Barara. Thank you for your message, Stephanie and Matt take great comfort from knowing that people care about them. Love Karen x

  42. Hi,
    I read this post with a terrible sense of dread and my eyes filled with tears for your tragic loss.
    I’m very sorry for you all.
    John (& Bev) in Greece ourselves now.

    1. Hello John and Bev. Thank you for your message and sorry it has taken so long for me to reply to you. Stephanie and Matt read all of their messages and I know that it really makes a difference to know that people care about them. Im so glad that you are in Greece, It is such a lovely country with beautiful Islands. Love Karen x

  43. This was one of the most heartbreaking posts I have read in a long time. Little Arthur’s face will haunt me for months to come. I am so sorry for your loss and hope those few precious moments you spent with little Arthur brings you peace in the years to come.

    1. Hello Mary. Thank you for message and Im sorry it has taken so long to reply to you. Stephanie and Matt really do appreciate your thoughts and kind wishes. Love Karen x

  44. Oh, I’m so sorry and I understand your pain … my daughter also lost a barely born baby boy, but in two years she gave birth to a beautiful, healthy daughter. I really wish you that the wounds would heal and you would find your magical piece of land …. Edita

    1. Hello Edita. Thank you for your message and Im sorry it has taken so long to reply to you. It is so sad to hear that your daughter too suffered such a horrible loss. It helps to know though, that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and for her to have a gorgeous baby daughter now is so lovely. Thank you for your kind words, I know Stephanie and Matt read all of their comments and it helps them to know people care. Love Karen x

  45. I am truly heartbroken to read this blog. Steph and Matt are the loveliest, most gentle couple I know, which makes it all the more sad because they deserve happiness not sadness in their lives. Baby Arthur looks beautiful in the picture, no wonder you, as granny, is proud and strong. You need all the strength you can muster through loving family and friends to get through this. Of course, Arthur will always be their first love and I hope they will go on to have a wonderful life together and, in the future, another little one.

    1. Hello Mae. Thank you for your message and Im sorry that it has taken so long to reply to you. Yes, it is has been such an awful time for Stephanie and Matt, and still is, it helps to know that people care though and I know they really appreciate such kind words. Stephanie will be posting an update sometime soon regarding the land that is being purchased for Arthur’s Patch, I know that there are going to be many wonderful things happening there. Love Karen x

  46. I am so very sorry for your loss. Little Arthur looks so beautiful. The loss of ones child is so traumatic but I can see, from the writing of your mother, that good can come from this. Family is so very important, particularly at stressful tines. Arthur’s Patch sounds like a wonderful idea and I wish you all success and happiness for the future.

    1. Hello Edna Thank you for your message and I am sorry I have not replied sooner. Stephanie and Matt read all of the messages and I know that they take great comfort from so many kind wishes sent their way. Stephanie will be posting sometime soon, with an update of the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch. Lots of wonderful things are going to happen there, Im sure. Love Karen

    1. Hello Irene. Thank you for your message, sorry it has taken so long to reply. Stephanie and Matt really appreciate your kind words and I know that it really helps them at this awful time. Love Karen x

  47. So sorry that our friends’ joy at having a baby have come to such a tragic end. We both feel for you all as a family, but especially Steph who has had her son grow inside her for all this time. Sending lots of hugs and love to you, and hope time will help you heal. Arthur’s Patch will a a great tribute and wishing you all future happiness.xxx

    1. Hi Lesley Thanks for your message, sorry it has taken so long to reply, but as you can imagine it has been horrible here. We are surviving each day, but some days are worse than others. Of course, as you say, it is Stephanie that has such a huge whole in her heart, only a mother knows what that is like. I hope you and the whole family are ok, I keep thinking back to that time in your swimming pool and Scrappy was playing with his ball! Sooo funny. I know that Stephanie sometime will be updating you on the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch. Love to you all, Karen x

  48. Just the saddest post, there are never really any words to comfort at a time like this, thinking of you all and truly hope Arthurs Patch will become a reality, wishing you all the very best.

    1. Hello Alan. Thank you for your message and sorry it has taken so long for me to reply. Stephanie and Matt really do appreciate your kind words, it does make a difference to know that people care about them. I know that Stephanie sometime soon will be posting about the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch. I know that wonderful things are going to happen there. Love Karen x

    1. Hello Sue. Thank you for your message and sorry that it has taken so long to reply to you. I know Stephanie and Matt feel that it helps to know that people care about them. Stephanie with post sometime soon with regards to the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch, it is a glimmer of hope for the future at such an awful time. Love Karen x

  49. I’m so very sorry for your loss. Baby Arthur will always be loved by his loving family and always be remembered. I too went through something very similar 9 years ago and to this day my baby girl is still in my mind. The grief the sorrow the anniversaries are always hard especially first time round. Be patient be gentle do what you need to do to get through the days and hours. xx My love and thoughts and prayers are with you.

    1. Hello Vasoula. Thank you for your message and I’m sorry that it has taken so long to reply to you. Im so sorry to hear that you too suffered such a terrible loss of a baby, there are very few things in life that are as awful as losing a child. I know that Stephanie and Matt really appreciate your words and it helps them to know that other people care about them. Love Karen x

  50. I have never met you in person, but have followed your blog over the years, as you have always been a real source of inspiration. I am so sorry to hear about your terrible loss! It is really the worst thing that can happen. I hope that, with time, you will find the strength to go on with the beautiful project you have started, whichever form it may take.

    1. Hello Annemarie. Thank you for your message and sorry that it has taken so long to reply to you. Stephanie and Matt really do appreciate your kind words and I know that they read every message sent to them. Stephanie will sometime soon be posting an update on the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch, It is a glimmer of hope at such an awful time. There will be lots of wonderful things happening at Arthur’s Patch and hopefully you will be able to follow along with them on their new journey. Love Karen x

    1. Hello Patrick. Thank you for your message and Im sorry for not replying to you sooner. I know that Stephanie and Matt read all of their messages and really do appreciate your kind thoughts. Love Karen x

  51. I have been following this blog for the last year or so and I am so sad to hear this devastating news
    Arthurs Patch sounds like a great idea, I hope you find a piece of land soon in which to do it.
    Stay Strong.

    1. Hello Robin. Thank you for your message and sorry for not replying sooner. I know that Stephanie and Matt really do appreciate your kind words and it does make a difference to know that people care. Stephanie will be posting sometime soon with an update regarding the land being purchased for Arthur’s Patch. I know amazing things are going to happen there and I hope that you can follow along with them on their new journey. Love Karen x

  52. This is heartbreaking, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My heart goes out to Matt and Steph, I was in tears reading it. I hope you will all heal in time and find peace, and that Arthur’s Patch will be all that you want it to be in little Arthur’s memory. Xx

    1. Hello Vicky. Thank you for your message and Im sorry that I have not replied sooner. Stephanie and Matt read all of their messages and I know that they really do appreciate your kind words. It helps to know that people care about them. Stephanie will be posting sometime soon with an update on the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch. I know amazing things are going to happen there. Love Karen x

  53. I am so so sorry to be reading this. Sending my love to you all. Baby Arthur is one very lucky little boy to have had such a loving family around him. He may have got his angel wings but he will always be with you xxx

    1. Hello Natalie. Thank you for your message and Im sorry that it has taken so long to reply to you. I know that Stephanie and Matt read all of their messages and really do appreciate your kind words. Love Karen x

    1. Hello Lynn. Thank you for your message and Im sorry that it has taken so long to reply to you. I know that Stephanie and Matt appreciate your kind words. Stephanie will be posting sometime soon with an update on the purchasing of land for Arthur’s Patch, I know that lots of amazing things are going to happen there. Love Karen x

  54. Karen, thank you so much for writing this.

    Losing a child feels like an impossible thing: so many hopes, expectations taken away. Nothing can ever make up for it, but if your family are reconciling and walls are coming down then there is always value in good things that happen as a result. My heart very much goes out to Matt & Steph, the pain never goes away completely, but the passage of time allows for not remembering and feeling the loss all the time. My love to you as a family.

  55. Dear Stephanie and Matt & family, we read this beautifully written post in tears. What to say? How could we possibly comfort you in your loss? We pray for you and ask the Heavenly Father keep you in his loving care. May he also grant you the place, Arthur’s Patch. Your gorgeous little boy deserves a lasting memory!
    Tuire and Robert Eastwood from Finland

  56. So beautifully written Karen at what has been such a sad and difficult time. You are all so incredibly strong. Our love and thoughts are with you all. Love to Steph and Matt xx
    Baby Arthur touched so many in his short life and will always be treasured and remembered. Arthur’s Patch is such a lovely idea and a lasting memory to a very special baby boy. 💙💙 xx

  57. Stephanie summed up in a previous post about learning to live in the moment- Arthur’s lifetime was short but made of many moments that they have lived, of the strength of family and theirs is iron cast. Arthur’s patch will be a great legacy and a tribute to your whole family’s strength through the most difficult time ever.
    Much love to all of you vanessa x x

  58. So sad for you all and sending so much love and strength to you. Arthur’s patch will be a wonderful legacy- he will live forever in the hearts of all who were privileged to meet him, and his brief time here will be forever remembered by creating a special place. You just all sound such a lovely family… sending hugs to you all. 🌈

  59. You are all in our thoughts at this heartbreaking time, beautifully written. Thank you for sharing photos of Arthur, he’s perfect, We cannot comprehend what your going through but we stand at your side. Love the Browns

  60. Oh how heartbreaking, God Bless you all. Sending lots of love and hugs to you all and pray God brings you peace and healing. I do not know how it feels to loose a child but having two I can only imagine…. May the Lord help you find the Sanctuary where people can come and heal and find meaning of life. Just like you did through such tragedy.
    Lots of love xxxx

  61. Hi Karen, my heart goes out to you and your lovely family at this difficult time and I really hope your families dream for Arthur’s patch becomes a reality and it provides some comfort and positivity in such a tragic situation. I think of you when I look at my picture of Chester I think of our dog walks with Ollie, animals are great healers. Sending you all much love ❤️ Caroline Xxx

  62. Love you all. You are so so strong. My heart broke when we heard the news. Steph and Matt you’re amazing and you must be so proud of your strong little boy. He was absolutely beautiful. My candle is still on for him.
    We never met Arthur but I love him. And care very deeply for him and all of you.
    Let us know if you need anything. We will be here in no time. Lots of love. Xxxx Laura

  63. I am so sorry to read this post. I have no words that are adequate enough but I you are all in my thoughts. I can only hope that the future ahead will continue to be full of the love and support family and friends are giving. Bless you all x

  64. Dear Karen,
    Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a beautiful piece during, what must be for you all, a terribly difficult time. It is certainly true that such tragedy can bring unexpected things into sharp focus, making us see things in a clearer, simpler way.

    We have followed their Greek journey, as in many ways it mirrors our own story. Leaving Sussex for a like less structured in Corfu. I even had the pleasure of writing an article for Stephi’s S.A.L.T.S series, which was an honor.

    Please know that each and everyone of you is in our thoughts and prays.
    Very much love to you all ❤️❤️❤️

  65. Oh I am so saddened to hear this heartbreaking news. There are no words for this tragedy, bless little Arthur. Sending you all our love, xxxx

  66. Dear Karen, I have just read your heartbreaking post. My heart goes out to you all, especially Stephanie and Matt who must be going through unimaginable pain. I am thinking about you all. Lots of love, Linda xxx

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